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I came across a blog post by one of my CrossFit friends who runs Craic in MA – and it enhanced a previous blog post I wrote last week – how not judging others is one of the hardest behaviors for so many of us to do. Think about all the ways you judge things in the course of a day. A few examples like the weather, your outfit, how you feel, your hair – you make judgments on those things before you even leave you house in the morning. John writes:
“If your goal is lasting change then it’s going to take work. It doesn’t matter if you want the body of your dreams, more money in your bank account, a more fulfilling career, or in this case – to be more accepting of others for the choices they make.”
And that’s what I am trying to do — with a new job, new people to meet, I have decided to put my best foot forward and make some changes to how I react and respond in certain situations. The other day I was showing someone pictures from Facebook and they immediately made a comment about the way someone looked and I challenged them about it. It’s easy to sit back and decide who someone is without really considering what walking in their shoes may be like.
Here’s another good post about judging: Judge Not. Failing That? Learn A Lot. that may offer some insight. To be less judgmental day to day definitely takes awareness, practice and work, which is probably why many of us choose to focus on other goals.
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“Bryan Cranston and Aaron Paul go into business together and this time it’s legal…barely. Find out what happens when Julia Louis-Dreyfus becomes a client, trying to offload television’s most coveted item, in this video starring three Emmy Award winners. ”
I’ve been boxing for a while now and am really getting into it. I can see more definition and I am leaning out. And I am not having any nagging shoulder impingement issues either. A lot of it has to do with not lifting heavy shit over my head which is Ok with me. I love that it’s not just boxing either –this morning we did some agility drills with the ladder and then finished the workout with suicide sprints outside.
On the nutrition side, I’ve been eating a lot of sweet potatoes lately – I buy an bag of organic ones at Wegmans weekly. I didn’t realize how good they are for you – they have massive amounts of beta carotene, fiber, and important vitamins and minerals.
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I came across this list from the book The Four Agreements. I think we would all agree that these 4 tips are a good road map for anyone but like most everything, not always the easiest to always act upon. But we should all at least try to live by them…
I’m off to start my second week at my new job - so far so good. It’s been an energizing experience so far and I am learning a lot – which is something that I love to do.
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We did a bit different type of workout and every time I was in the ring, my heart rate monitor stopped registering. So my calorie/heart rate numbers are lower than they should be…
3/1 minute rounds:
- Mitt/Ring Work
As I spent time yesterday reading about Robin Williams, it became clear how judgmental some people insist on being. Who are we to judge someone else’s actions? We were not in his shoes at that moment or the ones that led up to it. All I can imagine is the immense pain he must have felt to actually want to die. One blogger wrote about how selfish he was by taking his own life. Another wrote about how it was a choice he decided to make. I am not a doctor nor super educated in depression – I have felt very low during periods of my life and can attest to the fact that you aren’t necessarily capable of making rational, clear decisions. The decisions you make are filtered by what you are feeling and thinking every second of every day, so if you are depressed or happy – it influences your actions.
The actions you take while you are in the throws of Mr D. seem rational at the time. They seem like the only logical choice to make that will help you feel better and stop the pain. Regardless, we have no room to judge what Robin Williams decided to do. Is it something you would do? I hope not. Do I wish he had not done it? Absolutely. I feel sad but realize that I can not comment on someone else’s journey and no one else should feel as if they are entitled to either. We really need to take a look at our society as a whole and find ways to be kinder and act with more compassion. We are all here for a short time…
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I still have Robin Williams on my mind. Reports say that he had been getting treatment for his depression but that it was too far gone to do any good. I’m not sure I am willing to believe that help at any point is not helpful. The entire situation is tragic and hurts. We hurt because he was a part of our lives. His movies mean something to us. He touched many of us deeply and many of us can relate to his mental health struggle. Russell Brand wrote a very poignant piece about Robin Williams and his struggle.
“When someone gets to 63 I imagined, hoped, I suppose, that maturity would grant an immunity to adolescent notions of suicide but today I read that suicide isn’t exclusively a young man’s game.“
Robin Williams was not a young kid – dealing with the struggles that sometimes hurt so badly that teens don’t know how to deal – he was what we would call a success! He had kids, a wife, money, career success. The stories about how kind and thoughtful he was continue to pour in… It really is true that no one knows what inner struggles another person faces day in and out. If we all remember that and approach our daily lives with kindness and patience – we all benefit.
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Robin Williams was a big part of all of our lives — his movies are classics that we all relate to and remember which is why many of us are feeling this loss deeply. What I have learned over the years is depression threads its way into every atom of your being and can lay dormant for many years. Life goes on, great things happen to you and then something will trigger it and a downward spiral starts. There are chances to catch it before it drags you too far down. But sometimes, it can come on suddenly, without warning and it’s powerful. So powerful that you can’t grab hold and pull yourself back up.
A few years ago, I read Rick Springfield’s autobiography Late, Late at Night. It is an honest account of his own battle with depression – referring to it as “Mr. D”. He still battles it as it creeps back into his life when he least expects it and has crippled him and brought him to the brink of wanting to die many times over the course of his life. If you get a chance to read it, do. It’s an eye opener about what lies underneath some of the public celebrities we all know and admire.
My heart is heavy today as I think about how Mr. Williams must have felt yesterday as his Mr. D took charge – and took his life. Depression is not something to be hide. It is not a sign of weakness. It is a very real state that can lead its sufferers feeling powerless.
Get Help. Talk to someone. Be Open to the different treatments. Be a friend. Be Kind and offer a shoulder to lean on.
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- Don’t Let Darkness Grow
Today is a new day — and I am starting on a new adventure! After almost a year of being off from my corporate life, I am starting a full time position once again. This past year of freedom was a gift. It gave me time to spend on myself, with my family and get over some shit that had been lingering for a while. I was able to do some consulting, which gave me an opportunity to bring in some money, and helped me regain some of the confidence I had lost working my previous position. It also took away a lot of the fear of losing my job that held me so tightly and was why I stayed in a less than ideal situation for far too long. I now know things work out — may not be the way you envisioned but they work out. That insight is good enough for me…
I’m ready - Ready to head back into a working routine. Ready to gain knowledge and insight that comes from working with a team. Ready to have a real reason to do my hair and pick out my outfits daily. Yoga pants and tanks are great but I always enjoyed getting dressed up and styled to go into work. Ready to meet some new people. Ready to learn a new industry. It’s time and I am ready.
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