Had a great day today celebrating with my friend Cassie who is getting married next week. A group of CFI ladies met for lunch and mimosas as our way of giving her a proper send off!
Christmas Abbott goes after her dream
I make no secret that Iove Christmas Abbott – CrossFit athlete, coach, amazing person and now the first female Nascar pit crew member! CrossFit helps women achieve great things – helping inspire women to embrace strength and mental grit is one of the best thing about CrossFit for me. Showing women and men to some extent that Yes they Can – redefine who they have always believed they were.
Christmas says Conquering the fears that scare you most is the most rewarding, once conquered — and I feel that way about getting PRs, learning new skills and I get to do that often and with hard work at my own hand. No one hands it to me or her or others who focus and commit to making meaningful changes in their life.
And as I have said before — Christmas stays true to herself. She has been successful at CrossFit and when I heard she was doing something with Nascar, I dropped her a note asking her what’s going on? She told me she was going after a dream of hers — and look where that journey has led her. Don’t let fear stand in your way.
Here are two other stories of people doing what they love –and getting recognized for it:
- Nine-year-old football sensation Samantha Gordon jukes Warren Sapp (VIDEO)
- The Incredible Story of a 5-Foot-5 Dunking Sensation [VIDEO]
It’s meeting people like Christmas and reading stories about inspiring people and their feats that keeps me inspired, motivated and committed. Look what redefining who I was four+ years ago has opened up for me — I am blessed (and sappy).
It was a strength day for me — and I am learning to allow myself to let go of the fear of lifting heavy.
100 single jump ropes
10 Pass Thrus
5 push ups
10 whirly birds
5 push ups
10 Hand Stands
- 10min of Double Under practice
- 7×3 Front Squats with a 2 second hold at the bottom
That extra hold at the bottom of the squat really changes the lift and helps you become more aware of your form! It’s awesome, yet sucky at the same time!!
These ladies right here are my rock –they help me make sense of some of the more complicated relationships I have in my life right now and are often my venting and sound boards for experiences and frustrations. You know we call them –good friends. I wouldn’t trade them for the world….
Had a quick workout today and then headed up to the Wounded Warriors competition at CrossFit Rubicon. I will share pics and info about that tomorrow ….
I have come across some bat shit crazy people in my life and what I have realized is that I do have an inner radar that goes off when I first meet these sort of people. Something about what they say, how they say it just raises a flag in my head and for the most part, after a while of being around them, I am usually dead on right about them. I have a few observations about similarities I have discovered in these sort of people:
- They usually have low self esteem and are compensating for it by treating others like shit.
- They are disrespectful in a mean, spiteful way
- They have no idea to handle uncomfortable situations maturely and head on.
- They blame everyone else
- They are easily swayed and influenced by the words of others just like them
What I have decided moving forward is that when my radar goes off I will consciously steer myself clear of the person instead of allowing myself to be a part of their scenario. I dont enjoy participating in squabbles and irrational reactions to events. It’s not fun and I am better than that. I expect more of myself and have control over how things play out. I live a great life – I have my family, food on the table, more stuff than I could ever need and have worked hard to have true joy in my life. Allowing crazy ass people to take up space in my mind is bat shit crazy –and it will stop, today.
Instead of a workout, I coached some great athletes this AM on a workout called Fractured Fran. It’s like Fran but broken up into five rounds.
Tonight is the finale of the Whole Life Challenge for the CrossFit Athletes — it’s been a long eight weeks for many of them but I have seen some real transformations!! So happy that I get to help people change their lives for the better. That is an awesome feeling –
I love this post: How to Be Friends With Another Woman.
I often notice how we women can be our own worst enemies, tearing each other down, gossiping about one another, harshly judging. Guys don’t act like that — I always think back to a pick up game of basketball. Scott can go out with a ball and just start playing with a bunch of guys he has never met. Can you imagine a woman doing that with a group of women playing a game or sitting having coffee? It would be a total invasion of space – it’s not how we are normally wired. How about we just accept one another, support one another, lend a hand to one another –
I love this part of what Michelle Obama said during her 2012 Convention speech - it can be applied to our friendships and relationships with other women:
You reach back, and you give other folks the same chances that helped you … Now, we must be careful not to “slam the door shut behind us.”
Here are a few of the author’s suggestions:
1. Abandon the cultural myth that all female friendships must be toxic, bitchy or competitive. This myth is like heels and purses — pretty but designed to SLOW women down.
1A. This is not to say women aren’t bitches or toxic or competitive sometimes but rather to say that these are not defining characteristics of female friendship, especially as you get older.
2. A lot of ink is given over to mythologizing female friendships as curious, fragile relationships that are always intensely fraught. Stop reading writing that encourages this mythology.
2A. The female friendship in Sheila Heti’s How Should a Person Be? is actually awesome and powerful. If you read it as otherwise, ask yourself why.
3. If you find that you are feeling competitive, toxic, or bitchy toward the women who are supposed to be your closest friends, look at why and figure out how to fix it and/or find someone who can help you fix it.
4. If you are the kind of woman who says, “I’m mostly friends with guys,” and act like you’re proud of that, like that makes you closer to being a man or something, and less of a woman as if a woman is a bad thing, see Item 3. It’s okay if most of your friends are guys but if you champion this as a commentary on the nature of female friendships, well, soul search a little.
4A. If you feel like it’s hard to be friends with women consider that maybe women aren’t the problem. Maybe it’s just you.
6. Want nothing but the best for your friends because when your friends are happy and successful, it’s probably going to be easier for you to be happy.
6A. If you’re having a rough go of it and a friend is having the best year ever and you need to think some dark thoughts about that, do it alone, with your therapist, or in your diary so that when you actually see your friend, you can avoid the myth discussed in Item 1.
6C. Don’t tear other women down because even if they’re not your friends, they are other women and well, this is just important. This is not to say you cannot criticize other women but understand the difference between criticizing constructively and tearing down cruelly.
6D. Everybody gossips so if you are going to gossip about your friends, at least make it fun and interesting. As a corollary, never say, I never lie or I never gossip because you are lying.
Make sure you read the rest of her suggestions. They really make sense….and let’s make a pledge to change how we view our female friendships. Let’s just change –
I don’t know if you can see this but if you enlarge it — notice how excited this person was at the great deals she was able to get using coupons! Then notice the crap food she bought — mostly processed food which almost every ‘expert’ – no matter what doctor or diet you are on – tells you to stay away from. Its a great example of what’s wrong with people and why people are so overweight and unhealthy!
There is nothing wrong with this person – she is doing what she knows and most of the country knows this same information of what to eat. It’s BAD information!
And one of my friends posted this the other morning as she waited for her flight — her caption is dead on.
There is a real problem with our society and their habits. We all know habits are tough to change but this one affects us all! Healthcare costs, family member health, cancer, creating memories with the people we love! All of these are affected by people’s health habits. Think about it —
Here’s to having a good laugh today! It’s almost Friday but not quite so enjoy this collection of famous game shows and some of the stupid answers heard over the years!
Best Of Stupid Game Show Answers
I’ve been really looking into the relationships in my life and what makes me choose certain kinds of people and what behaviors trigger my insecurities and my defense mechanisms start come out in full force. At my age, I shouldn’t be so concerned with what others think and focus on doing what I do, the best I can do it — but it’s easier said than done. I often wonder why when a group of women get together and start to be close — inevitably bullying, favorites, gossiping develops. Who the ‘victim’ is changes depending on the situation. There are always a few in the group that never feel the brunt and then some that wear their hearts on their sleeves and get more than their share.
I want to break the cycle and just be at peace and one with just being. Not worry about being popular or what others think about me –and not to continually hear that voice in my head that asks “why are they treating you like that?” “what’s wrong with them?” “what are they saying about me?” It’s a full time job being paranoid and I have enough on my plate!
Why can’t women be the most empowering source of support and love for each other. We need to help each other to get anywhere in life — Let’s decide to NOT do what we have always done. Let’s support, empower and love one another without conditions, without gossip, with only the best of intentions. Easier said than done, but who ever said change was easy?
Some days you are the bug and some days you are the windshield….
A look at the fastest growing social disease both online and in person
Unfortunately, while most women believe they would never be the cause of loading such emotional stress on a friend or acquaintance, nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, many of us never really outgrow being a bully, says Cheryl Dellasega, a women’s studies professor at Pennsylvania State University and author of the book Mean Girls Grown Up. “The [aggressive] behaviour just gets a little more polished and subtle [as we get older].” You know the transformation: The cool girl in chemistry class who didn’t invite you to her post-graduation party becomes the office diva who “forgets” to forward you an important email at work. The fair-weather friend who flirted with your first crush turns into the frenemy who won’t keep her manicured mitts off your fiancé.
“Bullying isn’t uniquely female,” says Irene Levine, author of Best Friends Forever: Surviving A Breakup With Your Best Friend and professor of psychiatry at the New York University School of Medicine. “But there are always women who need to build themselves up by knocking others down. They may exclude, gossip, or do other things to demean one individual—particularly someone who seems vulnerable. Making someone feel alone, rejected and treating her as an outcast can be as vicious as a physical assault.”
What makes these encounters with a female bully so confusing and wounding is the very nature of women’s relationships. While men tend to bond by activities—grabbing a beer after a game of hockey, for example—women look for emotional intimacy from their female friends. We talk, we share, we open our hearts. And so the quickest way to hurt each other is by what experts call “relational aggression.” The female bully doesn’t use her fists; instead, she denies other women a social connection by mocking or shunning them. “For women and girls, relationships are a source of solace and power,” says Rachel Simmons, an expert on female aggression and the author of The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence. “Female friendships are one of the greatest comforts and the greatest weapons. The heart of female psychological violence is to destroy other people’s relationships.”
I’m feeling better! Yeah! I do however have a very tight muscle in the crux of my back and my triceps hurt. I am going to do some mobility this weekend to see if it loosens it up. And today we did Dead Lifts! I love Dead Lifts!
I need to remind myself to be kind and really consider someone’s intentions before starting to get upset at some actions of others.. Sometimes when you are really stressed out, all the things you need to work on come out in force. My friend, Lani is really good at not sweating the small stuff — I am trying to emulate her and find inspiration and guidance in her actions. Redefining yourself is hard work –and you constantly have to work on it. It’s like doing laundry, never ending…
Double Unders (it was pouring rain)
Tabata situps: 13 (lowest reps during any round)
I’m craving a bagel. My daughter is toasting a cinnamon raisin bagel and man it smells good!
I’m an animal lover. I don’t have any pets living with us right now — too much going on, not enough time to give them the attention they deserve. But there is something really special about having a pet. They affection and love they can show for their owner, the support they give during hard times, the fun they can bring out — it’s really special and amazing! They really are family members to the many owners out there –and they can rightfully stake claim to that!
It’s so powerful to really take in the fact that we humans live with, or near, many other animals who express their own emotions.
The joy of play, the sadness of mourning, or the hostility that underlies conflict is often expressed by animals only with each other, accompanied by complete indifference to humans. Nature isn’t about us.
But for animals who live alongside us? Sometimes, we love them and they love us back. When that happens, for me all the intellectual stuff — definitions and hypotheses about the expression of animal emotion — goes right out the window. I just bask in the sun with an animal friend at my side.