I came across a blog post by one of my CrossFit friends who runs Craic in MA – and it enhanced a previous blog post I wrote last week – how not judging others is one of the hardest behaviors for so many of us to do. Think about all the ways you judge things in the course of a day. A few examples like the weather, your outfit, how you feel, your hair – you make judgments on those things before you even leave you house in the morning. John writes:
“If your goal is lasting change then it’s going to take work. It doesn’t matter if you want the body of your dreams, more money in your bank account, a more fulfilling career, or in this case – to be more accepting of others for the choices they make.”
And that’s what I am trying to do — with a new job, new people to meet, I have decided to put my best foot forward and make some changes to how I react and respond in certain situations. The other day I was showing someone pictures from Facebook and they immediately made a comment about the way someone looked and I challenged them about it. It’s easy to sit back and decide who someone is without really considering what walking in their shoes may be like.
Here’s another good post about judging: Judge Not. Failing That? Learn A Lot. that may offer some insight. To be less judgmental day to day definitely takes awareness, practice and work, which is probably why many of us choose to focus on other goals.
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I still have Robin Williams on my mind. Reports say that he had been getting treatment for his depression but that it was too far gone to do any good. I’m not sure I am willing to believe that help at any point is not helpful. The entire situation is tragic and hurts. We hurt because he was a part of our lives. His movies mean something to us. He touched many of us deeply and many of us can relate to his mental health struggle. Russell Brand wrote a very poignant piece about Robin Williams and his struggle.
“When someone gets to 63 I imagined, hoped, I suppose, that maturity would grant an immunity to adolescent notions of suicide but today I read that suicide isn’t exclusively a young man’s game.“
Robin Williams was not a young kid – dealing with the struggles that sometimes hurt so badly that teens don’t know how to deal – he was what we would call a success! He had kids, a wife, money, career success. The stories about how kind and thoughtful he was continue to pour in… It really is true that no one knows what inner struggles another person faces day in and out. If we all remember that and approach our daily lives with kindness and patience – we all benefit.
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It’s Friday!! I had the weirdest dream last night and I think it was caused by reading about the horrific Malaysian airplane tragedy. I read an article about the crash site and witness accounts and my heart just dropped. Thinking about those people and the sheer fear and terror that must have overtaken them is unimaginable. I hope those stories you hear about your body going into shock and protective mode are true…
It’s another reminder of how precious life is and to stop wasting it on people and situations that don’t matter and cherish and appreciate those that do….
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Boxing (yes, again!)
My yoga instructor Tori continued the theme of Aparigraha (Non-Possessiveness) in yesterday’s class. According to wiki, Aparigraha “is the concept of non-possessiveness or non-greediness. The term usually means to limit possessions to what is necessary or important, which changes with the time period.”
I am getting a lot out of this theme personally. I have needed to de-clutter my house as well some long held beliefs and resentments that are not doing me any good at this point in my life. It’s not easy to just let go – it takes time to work through whatever caused you to hold on to it in the first place. I need to find time to go through all the closets in my house and get rid of clothes that don’t fit or that I don’t wear anymore. My closets are overflowing with unworn clothes that will probably never see the light of day, so why am I holding on to them? (rhetorical question of course!)
We all have things and beliefs in our lives that have been around for far too long. A sweater that you loved 10 years ago? A perception of who you are and why you can’t just drop everything and let loose… Things we hold on to in our life that may or may not serve us anymore. How often do we take a look at all “stuff” and clean house?
Think about de-cluttering or spring cleaning – it helps us feel more open to fresh ideas and refreshed and renewed – at least I know that’s how I feel! Tori suggested wearing our beliefs like loose clothing – where you aren’t constricted or constrained by them. You have the freedom to move, shift and let go of things that are holding us back.
By embracing the idea of Aparigraha, we can start to understand how our stuff controls us. We all want to live comfortably, but when you start to hold on to things (ie hoard) and/or obsess over what you have/don’t have, it starts to take control. This is also true when it comes to our opinions, habits and perceptions. We all need to regularly look over both the physical and internal stuff we are holding on to and get rid of the junk!
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Yesterday’s soccer game was so thrilling and even though the USA team lost to Belgium, I am still in awe of how awesome our players are. I had no idea how awesome soccer players are in general –great athletes and amazing to look at too. That’s a great combination for sure. I love when world sports’ teams compete –it brings out our national spirit. Everyone rallies together and cheers the team on. It’s unifying and exciting and it was much needed especially after the SCOTUS ruling in favor of Hobby Lobby this week that clearly divided the country.
It was definitely tough getting up this morning for my Power Boxing class. I am enjoying it but it’s hard on my body at 6A, especially after a tough and hot yoga class yesterday. One thing I have begun to notice while boxing is the variety of intensity found among the boxers. There are a ton of newbies that are still not comfortable really beating the crap out of the heavy bag. At least I think they are newbies — I wonder how much benefit they are getting when they don’t hit hard or really move during the workout time. My feeling is that you are there to work – so go as hard as you can. Maybe that’s as hard as they can go but I doubt it — I think it’s as hard as their mind allows them to go. This is really where the CrossFit training and mentality serves me really well. I go at full intensity when it calls for it — and I don’t quit and I am finding that a lot of people outside of CF don’t necessarily subscribe to that.
Have you had a chance to read this NYT feature: Is Obesity Ok?. It’s such a touchy subject that is tied to so many emotions that it’s tough to really get to the heart of it. The health implications of obesity are not OK – but obese people are worthy of respect and kindness, just like everyone else out there. But does respect mean you don’t show sincere care for their well being and talk to them about addressing the issue? Obesity is a public health issue and causes a whole host of other health issues. Sometimes honest conversations can sting even though it’s coming from a place of concern, but that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t happen.
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Yesterday, Casey Kasem died. He was very much a childhood staple in life. Every Sunday morning, I would listen to his American Top 40 on the radio and sometimes I would set up my tape player to record some of my favorite songs. Funny how different things are today. He will always hold a special place in my memories. It’s very sad that his family were in such a conflict over his end of life care. I’m sure it’s not what he would have wanted… Rest in Peace, Mr. Kasem.
“Keep your feet on the ground, and keep reaching for the stars.”
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During yoga class yesterday, Tori, our instructor, talked about coveting someone else’s place in the world – or more specifically coveting what someone else has can somehow degrade or cancel out what you have. A Zero Sum Balance. In Yoga practice, looking at others in the room and wishing you could be as flexible as they are somehow means you aren’t doing as well. I am sure each of us can think about situations in our lives where we do this…
The fitness community is a perfect example – how come my belly isn’t as flat as the person next to me? Or, “That girl lifted 250# and I can only lift 200#.” Why do we think that someone else’s achievements and gains mean we aren’t as good? Isn’t there room for everyone – and who gets to define what success means to us? We are all on our own track and are as varied as could be. Why are we consumed with keeping up with the Jones’ and think that one person’s success means we are somehow not as good?
It also goes a long with body image…as my friend Foxy says, “There’s an ass for every seat.” Who gets to decide what is the ideal body type or because someone weighs less than you, it means you aren’t as worthy of love and attention? We shouldn’t focus on what our neighbors are doing, unless they are in trouble or need help. Easier said than done, I know.
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Power Boxing 1 hour
I am on a quest to renew my inspiration and motivation for lots of facets of my life -especially my fitness plan. So far, Boxing has been the most fun and I can already see the effects of the heavy cardio and I am leaning out. After class today, I went and did some back squats as an add on since I want to focus on getting my posture in order. When I took the Olympic Lifting clinic with Bob Takano, he suggested I work on lots of back squats to help. I figured that and yoga – I will be on the road to improving.
With this change in scenery, I am also starting to reflect on what I can improve upon. I seem to have an issue with overall communication. A few of my friends disagree but I think it’s because they ‘get me’. I find that many people I come into contact with lately are sensitive – they are unable to dig deeper and see the real meaning underneath what may or may not be said. When someone says something to me that may not be what I want to hear or just irks me – the first thing I do is stop and think about it and try to apply intentions to what was said. I find that a lot of people don’t do that. My friend Omar suggested that it may be because I am around a lot of young people — like 20 years younger than I am — and they have not yet experienced different types of relationships and forms of communication. I am trying very hard to take this into consideration when situations arise, but I gotta tell you -it’s hard. Why do people not talk to each other anymore? It’s so darn frustrating…
One of the things I realized I was missing was the connection to CrossFit in general. Because each CrossFit is individually owned and is not a franchise, each one is run a bit differently. Highbar is very much a strength and conditioning gym and tended to steer away from a lot of CrossFit staples -like CF benchmark workouts, the CF Open, much of the CF lingo. What I realized a year into being there was I missed some of the fun and excitement that created. When you do a benchmark WOD like one of the ‘girls’, you know you are doing a workout that people around the world have done. It synchronizes us all –and I liked that. I do think some of CF workouts are problematic, but there are some that live up to the snuff. I want to reconnect with the CrossFit community overall and find that excitement again.
I am also going to make an effort to reconnect with some friends – beyond texting and facebook. To actually go out and spend time with them. I made plans for this evening to finally get over to one of my dear friend’s new place and we will just hang out and talk. That’s my kind of evening…
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TItle Boxing Club: Power Boxing 1 hour
How cool is this Luna moth I came across yesterday? It was a great reminder that you need to look around and appreciate the beauty around you. We are all so busy with our lives – that if you don’t stop and look around, you are going to miss some really cool stuff.
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You know how you are worrying about something that happened in your life – an argument with someone or a situation that happened – and then something big happens that reminds you that the little shit isn’t that big of a deal? Well that happened late last week. I was distracted worrying about a disagreement with friends when Scott and I got a call about our friend Div. He was in the hospital after having a heart attack. Early 40′s, no family history and just had a complete physical, including a stress test, a few months ago. He was in surgery having a stent put in after finding one valve 100% blocked. Holy shit – our dear friend just had a heart attack. That, my friends, is the big stuff in life — life and death.
Life really has a way of reminding you to appreciate all that you have right now. I was preoccupied with drama going on in my own head and was quickly reminded to let that shit go.
Update on Div: He’s doing great and should be released from the hospital today. He will need to make changes in his life. I went and visited with him for a few hours yesterday. He now has to get used to a new normal –life after a heart attack.
As I am renewing my inspiration towards my fitness efforts, I ran across this post: ARE YOU HAVING FUN? that really spoke to me. At the end of the day, it’s about being healthy and having fun. Hope it helps you as well.
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