Parenting/Family

Depression: Who Are You To Judge?

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As I spent time yesterday reading about Robin Williams, it became clear how judgmental some people insist on being.  Who are we to judge someone else’s actions? We were not in his shoes at that moment or the ones that led up to it. All I can imagine is the immense pain he must have felt to actually want to die. One blogger wrote about how selfish he was by taking his own life. Another wrote about how it was a choice he decided to make. I am not a doctor nor super educated in depression – I have felt very low during periods of my life and can attest to the fact that you aren’t necessarily capable of making rational, clear decisions. The decisions you make are filtered by what you are feeling and thinking every second of every day, so if you are depressed or happy – it influences your actions.

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The actions you take while you are in the throws of Mr D. seem rational at the time. They seem like the only logical choice to make that will help you feel better and stop the pain.  Regardless, we have no room to judge what Robin Williams decided to do. Is it something you would do?  I hope not. Do I wish he had not done it? Absolutely. I feel sad but realize that I can not comment on someone else’s journey and no one else should feel as if they are entitled to either.  We really need to take a look at our society as a whole and find ways to be kinder and act with more compassion. We are all here for a short time…

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Summer Parenting Challenges

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One of the challenges of this summer has been my 12 year old daughter is home during the day. She really wasn’t into attending camp this summer – so other than a few weeks where there were specialized camps, she is home. Which means she has to figure out a way to keep herself occupied and out of my hair.  She seems to be glued to her tablet and/or the TV for most of the day, which annoys me to no end.  I challenged her to read at least one book a week this summer but she doesn’t seem to be really digging that idea.  I ran across this post with some tips to help us parents encourage our kids to READ. Most are basic but I do like the one below and will start doing this for an hour or so a day while she is home.

Have an Electronics Black Out

For just an hour a day, or even just once a week, have an all out electronics blackout. Turn off the TV, the computer, cell phones and any other distracting device (unless it is an eReader) and pick up a book, magazine or newspaper. There is a saying that goes ‘monkey see, monkey do’, and if kids are used to seeing everyone around them read, they too will be encouraged to read more books.

On a related note: Most 10-Year-Olds Are More Afraid Of Getting ‘Fat’ Than Getting Cancer. A lot of the info she shares in the video below is discouraging, but being unhealthy is not OK. However, do people who are overweight and/or obese deserve respect and kindness like every other living soul in the world? ABSOLUTELY. In my mind, it shouldn’t be about condoning unhealthy behavior and habits, but teaching folks to rewire how to approach and treat people – no matter the circumstance. Always choose kindness and understanding…

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Listen Up

I’m really digging this song and its message: Meghan Trainor – All About That Bass

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Boxing

HR Data The HR monitor reset as we were doing sprints outside but I saw it before it reset and my calorie count for this hour workout was: 810. Not too shabby considering I felt pretty worn out. I have to figure out a way to loosen my body for the 6A boxing class. By the time I am finally feeling like I can hit hard, we are on the fourth round!

A Little Parental Freedom Is A Good Thing

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Kids at Camp With the kiddos off to camp this week, Scott and I are taking time to reconnect. It is so odd to not have the kids home. The drive to VTech to drop them off was filled with bickering and Are we there yets as expected. The 4 hour drive home though — was pure heaven. We listened to uncensored music. I took an uninterrupted nap. We stopped and got Dairy Queen. We were FREE!

Truth is, I miss those brats but it’s nice to have some down time once in a while. It makes you appreciate them all the more!

I am going to start working on getting up and heading for my workouts at 6A again on the regular. It’s amazing how fast you can get used to sleeping in even though it was easy for me to get up super early for years. The thing I am finding though is that because my body is still stiff that early in the AM, the boxing class is a bit tougher for me. I guess I will just have to get used to it once again. Liz and I are planning on adding in two strength days and then boxing and yoga to round out our weekly workout routine. I’m excited to have my lifting partner back and we are renewed with energy!

I came across this post last night that I think is share worthy and can be applied to sons and daughters….

19 Things I Will Tell My Daughter, via @brennanat (tumblr)

1. Wash your sheets every two weeks, I promise you’ll sleep better.

2. If a boy breaks your heart, it’s okay to cry.

3. If a girl breaks your heart, it’s okay to cry.

4. School is important, but there are many things you can’t learn in a classroom. Pursue them.

5. Find your passion, and run with it.

6. No, you don’t need to lose weight.

7. You are beautiful without make up.

8. You are beautiful with make up.

9. Being a good person will never go out of style

10. Buy yourself flowers if you’re feeling sad.

11. Getting enough sleep is very important.

12. Drinking water has so many benefits

13. Believe in fairy tales, believe in love, and allow no one to steal your magic.

14. Reading is good for the soul.

15. I am not here to judge you, but I will always support what I think is best for you.

16. I appreciate you.

17. I am proud of you.

18 Even on your worst days, you will never disappoint me.

19. I love you no matter what.

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Fourth of July: Family Roadtrip to Williamsburg

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Nate Dogg HoaglundScott planned a last minute family road trip to Williamsburg to celebrate the Fourth of July. Fireworks watching in Colonial Williamsburg – what could be more appropriate? The hurricane brought cooler temps which made it a perfect weekend for site seeing and spending time outdoors. We spent our last day at Busch Gardens Theme park. Anyone who knows me well, knows I am not a huge fan of parks like that. It’s too crowded, people forget their manners and to me, it’s the biggest display of gluttony on Earth. We managed to find a place in the Ireland section that had healthy salads, which is what I ate for lunch but I was probably one of the few in the entire park that actually chose the healthy option. Every time I go somewhere toursity, it’s a shocking reminder how obese and out of control people are. It makes me angry and sad at the same time. I see obese parents raising kids who are already battling obesity. They will have a harder battle to fight as they grow up already dealing with it.

Obesity is such a serious health issue. I found some Shocking Facts Behind Obesity Infographic that will surely open your eyes to how it affects all of us! Whenever I hear about accepting our bodies – I want to clarify it to be more about kindness, respect and worth. Being overweight affects your health and for your benefit and others – that’s not OK!

Steph Hoaglund & HB

As we are in full summer mode, many of us will be exercising and/or attending events to benefit worthy causes. I’m all for giving back, but you have to do your research before you just give. You need to make sure the money you are donating is really going towards the causes you wish to support. We all found out the hard way about the Susan G Komen organization and the millions of dollars going to pay salaries and not helping find a cure for breast cancer. With that in mind, I came across information about the Wounded Warrior Project: Wounded Warriors Project A Legal Scam. If you do support this organization, I ask that you inform yourself on how they operate. Based on this report, they definitely have some inflated salaries and other sketchy operational cost which ultimately means less of the money donated goes to the wounded vets they serve.

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Kindness Matters

Woman Pays For Young Mom’s Diaper Bill, Shows Us What Kindness Is All About

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Being Human Quote

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Sunday: Power Boxing
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Make Your Bed

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Take time out of your day and watch this amazing, inspiring and thoughtful commencement speech delivered by  Naval Adm. William H. McRaven, BJ ’77, ninth commander of U.S.Special Operations Command, Texas Exes Life Member, and Distinguished Alumnus at The University of Texas at Austin, on May 17, 2014. It’s worth it…

Navy SEAL Commander Tells Students To Make Their Beds Every Morning In Incredible Commencement Speech

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I skipped Power Boxing this AM- but I may go for a run later in the day if I feel up to it but no pressure….

Free Yourself By Quieting Your Mind

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Power BoxingWhile I am resting my shoulder, I’m trying out some new workouts in the area. To date - I have taken some cycling classes at CycleLuv in Leesburg, hot yoga at Flow Yoga in Ashburn and yesterday – I took a Power Boxing class at Title Boxing in Ashburn. The boxing class was fun — it was high intensity class with a solid 15 minute warmup, 8 Rounds of boxing, and then some core work. I left drained and am feeling it today.  The boxing wasn’t too bad on my shoulders – the issue seems to be when I do anything directly overhead.

A part of trying all of these new classes is to keep my mind sharp and challenged. Yesterday, I came across this NPR post about this very topic: Learning A New Skill Works Best To Keep Your Brain Sharp. If you feel like you are in a constant state of fog, get out there and try something new – and not only exercise your body, but your mind as well!

Today, in yoga class the intention discussed was about filters that cloud our day and how can we peel back the filters and be in the moment and present. When we all look at a situation or have an interaction, we aren’t looking at it with one layer. Say a man is late for the bus. He may be upset because he’s late, but underneath that it could be layered with a memory of lateness to a special event or that it triggers a memory of his mom being late and how it made him feel — and the layers can go deeper and deeper. You get the idea — so how do we free ourselves from all of those layers and be there in that moment? Hell knows… but I think learning to quiet your mind and gaining perspective can help.

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Don't Hold On To Anger

 

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Birthday Wishes for Nate Dogg

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312286_10150369745638741_1322630304_nHappy 10th BIrthday to my Nate Dogg, my challenging, cute, sweet, smart, and mischievous bundle of joy. It’s hard to believe that my youngest is now double digits. It’s another reminder of how time flies… Nate used to love to snuggle, hug and hang out with me and now he would much rather hang out with his dad and play video games. Getting a hug and kiss from him is a lesson in strategy and deal making. I tell him all the time that being his Mom, I am entitled to hugs and kisses whenever I want but it hasn’t changed his mind. I won’t stop trying though — some day he will realize how awesome my attempts really were.

Here are some good tips and info about raising boys:

 

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Never Waste Your Feelings on people who don't value them

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7 Lessons From a Happy Marriage

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2wedding - Copy16 years ago today in Las Vegas, I hit the jackpot and married THE Silver Fox and became the luckiest girl in world. Here are some lessons I have learned since then…

  1. Husbands can not read minds, good communication is key.
  2. Be your spouse’s biggest cheerleader.
  3. It’s a good thing to have your own Hobbies & Interests.
  4. A good sense of humor comes in handy.
  5. Whenever you disagree, ask yourself “Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?”.
  6. Marriage is not a fairy tale – it has ups and downs.
  7. Always practice kindness.

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Success: The Difference You Make In People’s Lives

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San Fran ViewI got back from San Fran a few days ago and am still processing and decompressing all the experiences HB and I had on our SF trip. Of course there was mostly family time which is what’s important. My two little 3 month old nieces are just the cutest, sweetest babies in the world. I was in heaven holding them, helping feed them and just being around them as each day brought new discoveries of life. And babies smell so sweet — It was very hard to leave because I know the next time I see either of them, they will have grown and no longer be these little bundles of wonder. I loved seeing them interact with HB as well – helping foster a connection between them is really important to me and it was something that I missed out on growing up. Amelia, my three year old niece, was in awe of HB and followed her around like a groupie. It was so awesome…

The weather was amazing for walking all over San Fran -which in truth is one of my favorite things to do. I just love taking in the sights. Every where you look is like a postcard, at least near the marina.  I think on Monday alone, we walked over 9+ miles and although my feet were aching, I didn’t mind a bit. We went down to the Ferry building, picked up some Blue Bottle Coffee – If you get a chance to try their coffee, DO. They roast their own beans and seriously, it’s the best. Then we walked down Market street to do some shopping and then walked all the way to the Wharf to enjoy some Ghiradeli ice cream and then walked on home.

During our trip we also went to Chinatown, into Oakland to attend a BBQ, shopped at Fort Mason Farmer’s Market, and just hung out. It was a perfect little get away for HB and I — no stress, great family, babies and awesome surroundings.  I feel re-energized and ready to move forward…

I worked out on Weds morning and then yesterday, went to a Flow Yoga class – which is kicking my ass. Holy cow is yoga tough. I can already feel progress in my shoulders and overall flexibility and my body doesn’t hurt as much during regular CrossFit – so those are all wins in my book.

HB in San Fran

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The quote above really applies to someone like Pharrell - he’s making a difference in people’s lives. Watch the video below and you will see how awesome he is. It seems to me that many people who make it in their field of choice lose that perspective of appreciation. To see someone as talented and famous as he is right now really understand the impact he can have is refreshing and touching.

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Rest in Peace Aunt Barbara

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Aunt BarbaraMy aunt died yesterday. She was my Dad’s only sister and only sibling. I had only met her a handful of times at most in my life. Our family has a history of estrangement and other odd family relationships. My Dad and her didn’t speak for many, many years and making the effort to be in each other’s lives wasn’t a learned behavior.

What a shame it was that I didn’t grow up with a lot of family around. My mom is estranged from her one sister to this day –and none of the cousins from my dad or mom’s side of the family are close. It is something I am trying to change with my generation…  I talk to my brothers and sisters all the time. If I haven’t mentioned it before – I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters. We are all different, yet all the same and we love each other. When you are raised to all be chiefs, it’s hard to be an Indian when you get together – so there are conflicts and arguments-like any family. I love them with all my heart and constantly wish I lived closer.

And now that I am an Aunt, I am determined to be in my nieces’ lives and have my kids know their cousins. It’s too important not too…

Rest in Peace Aunt Barbara

Barbara Gettinger Stewart passed away today, March 6, 2014, in her home in Oxnard due to an ongoing illness. She grew up in South Texas but always considered the Pacific Northwest home. She was kind, intelligent, opinionated and outspoken. She was passionate and stubborn when it came to politics, and spent many dinnertime conversations with the family expounding on foreign policy or The Economy. Her taste for the finer things swelled her closet with clothes from Nordstrom’s and her drawers overflowed with mail-order beads. Occasionally, a Robert Redford brand piece of furniture would arrive to her doorstep, often to the surprise of her loving husband, Haven. Barbara had many different careers, including teaching and jewelry making, but found the most fulfillment in being a wife and mother. She is survived her husband Haven, her two children Fletcher Stewart and Alexis Stewart Allen, three grandchildren, and her brother Jerry Gettinger.

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