Yesterday’s Yoga theme was BALANCE and the idea that the universe needs it and will do what is necessary to gain it. I’m sure we all have seen examples in our lives of the chaos that ensues when things are out of balance. We eat too much, drink too much, clutter up our spaces, overindulge in things that we shouldn’t. They are signs of things being out of whack in our lives.
A great example of someone trying to regain balance in their lives is Max Schireson, the chief executive of a software company, who made headlines because he decided to step down to spend more time with his family. Countless women make this choice regularly but it’s rare for a man to do it and then talk about it.
When I start to feel overwhelmed and unable to get a handle on things happening in my life – my house gets messier, I become annoyed and irritated, I eat more, and I have a tendency to sleep a lot more than I normally do (I love to sleep in general).
Learning how to balance life’s ever changing hills and valleys is a life long process but here are some good tips I have found:
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I was overcome with how many people “liked” my FB post about Scott’s cancerversary. Reminds me how lucky we are to have so many people in our lives supporting and loving us. It was a great day all around including me getting my hair done – doing my hair and buying shoes are sure fire ways of making me feel fabulous any day of the week.
The gift that having to deal with Scott’s cancer has given me is Perspective. Perspective about what is meaningful in my life, how blessed I am, what is really important. I sometimes discard it and let insignificant things get to me – but I usually find my way back. But, how do you start gaining perspective and using it to filter your life experiences?
A huge life experience like an illness or a death can get you there but what if you want to start seeing your world differently without having to struggle?
I came across this post: Two Questions to Help You Gain Perspective which really spoke to me. The two questions they suggest asking yourself:
Question 1: If someone had a video tape of your typical day, what would they see?
Question 2: Based on your current actions and behaviors, where would you expect to be in five years?
At the heart of it, these two questions are about self reflection: having a vision and goals for yourself. For every situation and decision – ask yourself:
- Does this align with who I want to be?
- Am I around people who lift me higher?
- Is the situation I am dealing with worthy of an emotional investment?
- How does it make me feel?
I also find getting outside and closer to nature helps. We all are just a small part of a huge world. We get so caught up in a rat race which leads many of us to feel disconnected – something like taking your shoes off and walking through some freshly cut grass can center and bring you back. Research shows that taking a walk in a park can help boost your spirits as it connects you to nature.
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I start my new gig next Monday which means this week is the week to tie up loose ends. It’s been almost a year since I have had to get my shit together and head into an office – and while I am excited, I’m also nervous and apprehensive. I know it will work out the way it needs to so that helps.
I forgot to mention that last week was Scott’s 6 year Cancer Free Anniversary! Hard to believe it was six years ago – Curious to read about our family’s experience? Here’s a link to my first blog which chronicles from them time we found out through his treatment and beyond: Colon C: Our Family’s Life
I was reminded of our experience when I read about a fellow CrossFitter: Jason Fine’s very recent cancer battle. He unfortunately has an aggressive melanoma and has just been told his time is short. My heart is heavy for him and his family – who have had to come to grips with the harsh realities of cancer.
Life is short and none of us knows what the future will bring, so make the most of every day!
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I am planning to head to an evening class this evening — will update if it works out!
I posted All the reasons I loved being on the Paleo diet (but why I decided to stop) the other day – and I fielded some questions about what I am doing lately. I relate a lot to what this blog writer says as well. Right now, I am trying make healthier choices and staying away from gluten, dairy and processed food which aligns to Paleo but I am realizing there is more to life than hitting PRs and restricting and monitoring everything I eat. I want to be healthy but in a healthy way– does that make sense?
If I want some pizza, then I am going to have some but not go overboard – I am enjoying being away from 100% CrossFit/Strength and Conditioning fitness gyms. I want to have fun, listen to some great music, and be fit – move my body for an hour or so. The way I am feeling right now – who the heck gives a crap if I can deadlift 250# and added 10# from last cycle. It’s great to be strong, but I am not training for an athletic endeavor. I want to be FIT and Healthy. That may include dead lifting and it may not — who knows. I am regaining perspective about what I am doing. What are my goals TODAY — they are definitely different than a year or so ago. I may be less lean and lose some of the strength gains from a year ago, but I am starting to realize at the end of the day, so what? I am healthy, strong and fit.
Everyone needs to do a gut check and really take a look at you want out of your life — you may be surprised to find out it isn’t what you thought. And who knows, six months to a year from now, maybe I will feel like going back to CrossFit or do another strength based program, but maybe not. I’m keeping an open mind…
This quote really speaks to doing a gut check as well: “You must have long term goals to keep you from being frustrated by short term failures.” ~Charles C. Noble The question to ask is what are you working towards — what does the future look like to you and then start working towards that…
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Boxing with Connor. Great class that included sprints in between rounds!
Fall is around the corner and the change of season is a good time to make healthy changes in your life, like taking on the Whole 30 challenge. If you want to look into the Whole 30 approach, Melissa over at The Clothes Make the Girl compiled some great resources: Whole 30 Resources Roundup. I also found a Pinterest Board to help get you set up doing Whole 30: Whole30 Approved – Food.
And of course you can always visit my Paleo & CrossFit Resources page for even more information and inspiration!
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I’m loving this guy’s voice: Sam Smith – I’m Not The Only One
Boxing – I was not really feeling it today, so my calorie burn was a bit down but at the end I did some stretching, so my calorie burn was around 800 total.
One of the challenges of this summer has been my 12 year old daughter is home during the day. She really wasn’t into attending camp this summer – so other than a few weeks where there were specialized camps, she is home. Which means she has to figure out a way to keep herself occupied and out of my hair. She seems to be glued to her tablet and/or the TV for most of the day, which annoys me to no end. I challenged her to read at least one book a week this summer but she doesn’t seem to be really digging that idea. I ran across this post with some tips to help us parents encourage our kids to READ. Most are basic but I do like the one below and will start doing this for an hour or so a day while she is home.
Have an Electronics Black Out
For just an hour a day, or even just once a week, have an all out electronics blackout. Turn off the TV, the computer, cell phones and any other distracting device (unless it is an eReader) and pick up a book, magazine or newspaper. There is a saying that goes ‘monkey see, monkey do’, and if kids are used to seeing everyone around them read, they too will be encouraged to read more books.
On a related note: Most 10-Year-Olds Are More Afraid Of Getting ‘Fat’ Than Getting Cancer. A lot of the info she shares in the video below is discouraging, but being unhealthy is not OK. However, do people who are overweight and/or obese deserve respect and kindness like every other living soul in the world? ABSOLUTELY. In my mind, it shouldn’t be about condoning unhealthy behavior and habits, but teaching folks to rewire how to approach and treat people – no matter the circumstance. Always choose kindness and understanding…
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I’m really digging this song and its message: Meghan Trainor – All About That Bass
The HR monitor reset as we were doing sprints outside but I saw it before it reset and my calorie count for this hour workout was: 810. Not too shabby considering I felt pretty worn out. I have to figure out a way to loosen my body for the 6A boxing class. By the time I am finally feeling like I can hit hard, we are on the fourth round!
To follow up on yesterday’s seasons of change post, I found a post that capture the essence of what I was talking about: Change of Season. The last line “Commit to the process then release your attachment to the outcome….” really says it all doesn’t it?
I want you to take some time to read this: Are You Recovering, Or Are You Just Resting? My friend Madeline shared it along with this comment:
“Merely taking a day or two off from exercise when you’re feeling overtrained (or All Banged Up) is, to put it bluntly, the slacker’s version of “recovery.” One of the many things that was underscored during our training with Rob MacDonald of Gym Jones is that recovery requires just as much (or more!) discipline as training itself. Which means if you’re training hard, a case could be made that you should spend more time focused on recovery than you do on training itself.”
For quite some time I had been feeling just run down — and would take a day off regularly but what I have realized now is that I was not really allowing my body to recover and it was taking its toll. High Intensity Training like CrossFit is hard on your body but it’s hard to take time off. It’s why people keep it up –which is great and bad at the same time.
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