Posts tagged body image
I saw this posted question the other day and it made me pause. It’s an interesting question to ponder.
Now that my daughter is entering her teen years and has started to experience all that goes with it, it has put me in a reflective mood. She has already begun dealing with friend drama, body image worries, and embarrassing parents. I want to let her experience things without being a helicopter parent, but also benefit from the knowledge that I have. I didn’t have a picture perfect childhood and want to do whatever I can to prevent her from experiencing some of it. I see traits in her personality that mirror mine and it worries me sometimes. I know there is only so much I can do as her mom – sigh…
As for me answering that question – I would tell myself to not let fear control my decisions. I was always so scared of being uncomfortable, craved stability and that made me so rigid. I saw things one way and that was it – wasn’t open to trying anything new and was so scared to just take a chance. How about you?
Oh and I would definitely tell myself to start exercising as an outlet for stress – I often wish I was in shape from the onset!
Four straight days of exercise has left me sore — My quads are so sore it hurts to walk down stairs — so today is a rest day. Rest and recovery is just as important as exercise in your overall health and wellness plan. It’s the times you haven’t taken enough rest time and aren’t on top of your game that you get injured.
This past weekend, the topic of body image was on my mind. I follow some modeling agencies on Instagram -one of the many fashion weeks has just passed and I kept noticing how thin the models look. Not healthy thin either. For a brief moment, I thought maybe my outlook changed because I am around strong women who workout and have muscles. Annie Thorisdottir and Camille LeBlanc-Bazinet are the type of women I see in the magazines and websites I frequent. But then I realized that wasn’t it – they really are too thin. Even my 12 year old daughter mentioned how emaciated they looked. It bothered me to see that this sort of look is still favored in the world of fashion. We all need to make sure we are having regular and real conversations with our kids about body image. Just the other day I read a post about a woman making sure her sons see her naked on occasion, so they don’t develop a warped sense of what a women’s body looks like….
- 11 Facts About Body Image
- For the sake of young girls, the conversation about body image needs to change (guest opinion)
- Yes, you should feel bad for models: we’re being told to go diet – or go broke
- Life Lessons: You’ll Never Throw Coffee Grounds Away Again
- Life Lessons: Stop Accumulating Stuff And Start Accumulating Experiences
- Fitness: Your Fancy Non-Cotton Workout Clothes Stink
One of the challenges of this summer has been my 12 year old daughter is home during the day. She really wasn’t into attending camp this summer – so other than a few weeks where there were specialized camps, she is home. Which means she has to figure out a way to keep herself occupied and out of my hair. She seems to be glued to her tablet and/or the TV for most of the day, which annoys me to no end. I challenged her to read at least one book a week this summer but she doesn’t seem to be really digging that idea. I ran across this post with some tips to help us parents encourage our kids to READ. Most are basic but I do like the one below and will start doing this for an hour or so a day while she is home.
Have an Electronics Black Out
For just an hour a day, or even just once a week, have an all out electronics blackout. Turn off the TV, the computer, cell phones and any other distracting device (unless it is an eReader) and pick up a book, magazine or newspaper. There is a saying that goes ‘monkey see, monkey do’, and if kids are used to seeing everyone around them read, they too will be encouraged to read more books.
On a related note: Most 10-Year-Olds Are More Afraid Of Getting ‘Fat’ Than Getting Cancer. A lot of the info she shares in the video below is discouraging, but being unhealthy is not OK. However, do people who are overweight and/or obese deserve respect and kindness like every other living soul in the world? ABSOLUTELY. In my mind, it shouldn’t be about condoning unhealthy behavior and habits, but teaching folks to rewire how to approach and treat people – no matter the circumstance. Always choose kindness and understanding…
- CrossFit: What a workout: The Crossfit exercise program is intense, but it does get results
- CrossFit: Healthy or Hot? Priorities or Not?
- CrossFit: Crossfit Gave Me Nothing.
- Life Lessons: Why is the world of sport less female-friendly than a war zone?
I’m really digging this song and its message: Meghan Trainor – All About That Bass
The HR monitor reset as we were doing sprints outside but I saw it before it reset and my calorie count for this hour workout was: 810. Not too shabby considering I felt pretty worn out. I have to figure out a way to loosen my body for the 6A boxing class. By the time I am finally feeling like I can hit hard, we are on the fourth round!
With summer practically here, I’ve been seeing a lot of stories about body image, exercise, and obesity. Nothing like reading about how fat we all are to get us feeling comfortable to get in a bathing suit, right? Yesterday I came across the story of Taylor Townsend -who was told she was too overweight to be a tennis champ. Ignoring those people, she has now broke a record and is the youngest player to advance to the third round of the French Open since 1993.
“The U.S. Tennis Association attempted to keep her out of competition at the U.S. Open. It was suggested they would not restore their support until the teen, then the top-ranked junior player in the world, lost weight.”
Obesity is a very serious problem and recent reports show that no nation has lowered its obesity rates in 33 years- which is terribly alarming, but fat shaming and making people feel less than valued because of their weight isn’t going to solve any problems. As the picture to the right shows – body types are different for women and we carry weight differently. I wonder what Taylor Townsend’s actual blood work and vital stats look like — I bet she is healthier than the average person and has certainly shown what she can do.
- Health & Fitness: Fitness Crazed
- Health & Fitness: Everything You Know About Fitness Is a Lie
- Life Lessons: This Photo Shoot Proves All Bodies Are Bikini Bodies
- Food: The Food Lab Turbo: How to Make The Best Egg Salad
- Food: Kid Snacks (and Snacks for Grown-Ups Too)
- CrossFit: CrossFit Bashers, Can You Be More Constructive?
- CrossFit: CrossFit’s Sour Sense of Humor
- Monday: Power Boxing
- Tuesday: Flow Yoga
I read this Facebook status this morning and thought it was perfect to share – the past few days, I have been struggling with being engaged in my workouts – I’m really sore and worn out. I am more than thankful that today is a rest day from Highbar CrossFit. I may even take tomorrow off if I am still sore. Gotta listen to your body and mind first and foremost when gauging my workout schedule.
“Actions speak louder than words. How you approach your workouts says a lot about the person you are. Do you give it your best daily or so you just go in just to say you did it? Or are you the one who is the socialized and not doing work? Think about it.. How you approach work, your workouts, relationships carries over to daily life…”
I am continually appreciative of living in truth and appreciated this post: Keeping It Real. We all need to do more of this honesty thing. No one looks airbrushed and perfect. NO ONE. Good lighting, computer enhancements are all part of the norm in the images we are barraged with day in and out. It’s refreshing when someone goes ahead and shares what their reality really looks like because it looks like everyone elses! Hallelujah!
- Fitness: 6 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT CrossFit
- Life Lessons: How to Land Your Kid in Therapy
- Health/Nutrition: This Raw Food Blogger will blow your Junk Food-Loving Mind
- Health/Nutrition: A Big Bet on Gluten Free
- Fitness: The Scapula: How It Can Make or Break You
- Body Image: ‘Photoshopping Real Women Into Cover Models’ Produces Some Unsettling Results
- Body Image: Flub Flub Flub, and other noises I make when I run
Yesterday, I shared On Being a Real CrossFitter on my facebook page and I was surprised to see how many people related. One of my friends even said that she hasn’t yet even bought a CrossFit shirt because she doesn’t feel like a real CrossFitter. It got me thinking about the amount of pressure we put on ourselves to be a certain way before we acknowledge the effort and the progress we are putting in day after day.
Does putting a label on something make it more valid and real? And what exactly does it mean to be a CrossFitter?
Much of the problem in my opinion is because most of the media about CrossFit showcases the Elite athletes – the ones that were athletic during their childhood, into their teens and now do this for a living. They are definitely a part of CrossFit.
But you know who else can be called a CrossFitter?
80+ year old Jean is a CrossFitter, the ladies pictured below are — you get the point. It’s not about whether you can compete at the Elite level — It’s about you, putting in the work and living healthy and fit. No one needs to label it something to make it so. If you love it, and it is helping you progress and move closer towards your goals -whether you lift 33 pounds or 333 pounds- you are a CrossFitter.
Now, go buy that T-shirt, brag to your friends about the WOD for today – don’t let a label define you. Just own it, because if you don’t believe it, how can you expect others to?
Double Under Practice
3×5 Back Squat 170#
I forgot to set my alarm last night, woke up this AM and was thinking – it’s awfully light outside, looked over and saw it was 7A. Well there went my one opportunity to get a workout in today. My friend Britt is moving to North Carolina and tonight is her going away get together. I can’t miss it, so my workout goes out the window. It’s one of the big reasons why I get it done before the busy-ness of the day takes over. It’s rare that the hour of 6A has me so busy, I can’t workout. When you decide to commit to a life of fitness, factors like that need to be considered!
All about how those amazing transformation photos are done –and how someone that is in shape can go in pictures from lumpy to WOW in an hour – with the right lighting, posture, and technique.It’s important to read stuff like this to help bust the image many of us have in our head of what we have to look like based on some ideal. Guess what? That Ideal doesn’t exist past fancy photoshop, lighting and our own imaginations. It’s all about Tricks of the Trade!
My friend Will from CFI came to do a workout with me this morning. It meant so much to me that he took the time to come to hang out with me. I have met the most amazing people through CrossFit. It’s one of the best things about it all — I feel great and get to know amazing, inspiring, fun people. How can that be wrong?
Yesterday, I read a post about body image and the scale. It’s a reoccurring theme in my head and the head of so many others out there. A number on the scale can make or break how we feel about ourselves. It’s sad how much power we give it but yet we can’t help it. I have mentioned before, I have never owned a scale in my adult life. I view them as the enemy and would rather not have something around me that has the ability to make me feel bad about myself. When I go to the doctors, I request they do not tell me my weight. If I happen to see it on the chart, I usually freak out internally. How can I weigh that much?? I must look horrible. And add in any other negative self talk you can imagine.
I think it helps to read about athletes who are similar in their workout approach thinking the same things as ‘normal’ women do —
…one of the biggest things about this transformation, for me and the people around me – both clients and friends – is not so much that working out makes you confident or that training changes your body – it’s that people don’t even know what 135lbs looks like anyway. Since I first got heavily involved in martial arts and CrossFit, any time my weight has come up in conversation, which of course it does in competitive sports, no one has ever believed me. People consistently think I weigh about 10lbs less than I actually do.
Reading this stuff doesn’t make the internal dialogue go away but the more I read it, the more I hang out with people who appreciate strong women and the way they look, the more I will start to be comfortable in my own skin and realize that it really is just a number, not a definition of my worth.
10 push ups
4 Sampson Stretch
4 Instep Lunges
Front Squat 80% of my Back Squat
worked up to 120#
10 DB Power Cleans (20#)
15 DB Push Press (20#)
Sunday morning, as I was doing my regular grocery shopping I saw Camille Leblanc-Bazinet on the cover of Oxygen Magazine in the check out line. I was so proud to see her mainstream. As I was paying for my stuff, I noticed a woman picking it up and showing her husband –I overheard her say Oh, that’s that CrossFit we have heard about. I was smiling -and then I saw her point to Camille’s picture and stick out her tongue and say Yuck. My smile disappeared —
What is it with people — muscles and strength don’t look good on a woman? Come on now — Open your mind and understand that women come in all shapes and sizes and what’s important at the end of the day is that they are being the best they can be –an authentic self.
Funny timing – I came across this post again yesterday:
I love this part:
The chase of some worldly physical ideal will slowly slide down the list of why you will show up to CrossFit everyday and basically torture yourself. You will get totally addicted to the feeling you get when you do things that were simply impossible for you a few months ago. The body you get is nothing more than a by-product. It takes discipline in the kitchen to perform (physically, mentally, and spiritually) your best so keep in mind that you should…
I am on day two of my refocus on nutrition and performance and I am feeling great. Not eating like crap allowed me to sleep great last night, wake up feeling great — have more energy and am in a better mood. Can’t not love that!!
I PR’d again this morning on my bench press — by 20#. Nothing to complain about there. I am really feeling at home at HighBar now, which is a great feeling.
4 sampson stretch
4 instep lunge
Test on Bench Press
1×5 115# (although I tried 125# for 1 and 120# for 3) PR
- Run, 400 m –
- then — 5 rounds:
- 5 Box Jumps
- 10 Kettlebell Sumo
- Deadlift High-pulls,
- 1 pood 15 Push-ups –
- then — Run, 200 m
I come across quite a few posts dealing with body image the past week or so – all trying to combat the myth around the number of the scale dictating how fit you are and how this idea of the perfect body is a myth.
Stop worrying that everyone will think you’re not fit. It’s time to show everyone what real, fit, athletic women look like. We are not the airbrushed “perfection” of fitness magazine myth. We are all different, unique, and we come in different shapes, colors, and sizes. And most of us are probably rocking a few dimples.
More focus on the work, less focus on the noise. More expectations of yourself for greatness.
This weight issue has plagued me my entire life. I have never been ‘small’ and when I do reveal my weight, I constantly hear “you don’t look like you weigh that much”. I will never fit in the BMI scale of numbers –but I can dead lift 250#, back squat 215# and can handle many workouts that others would shy away from. I know I could eat cleaner at times, but I enjoy the occasional treats. I don’t fool myself into thinking that they are healthy and am aware of how I feel after I eat them. Overall – I’m pretty damn fit and healthy.
Every day I work on combating the voices in my head that tell me I’m not good enough. I don’t look good enough. Just the other day at the pool, I saw some ladies from the ‘hood I don’t see that often. My mind started worrying about how I looked and whether all the working out matched my outward appearance and would they gossip about me. I actually stopped myself and said –screw it, I workout and am fit and who cares what others think and freed myself from those thoughts. It’s an every day thing though — to be conscious of the voices in your head and learn to focus them on positive things. Things that will bring you closer to the person you want to be.
4 sampson stretch
4 instep lunges
bench press 95#
(we are doing some de-loading in preparation for our final week of this strength program)
2 man makers
4 inverted barbell rows