Posts tagged change
There I said it. So many of us lead hard lives as it is that when presented with choices to make a change, we don’t. Why do something else hard by choice? And sometimes you are so clouded that you don’t even realize you need to change. Logic says that if you don’t know what you don’t know then how do you know you need to change it. It’s a good question and one I am not sure I know the answer to –but if you have had enough of the way your life is or the direction it’s going or feel like shit– or you feel out of whack, I am going to take a guess and say you probably need to change something. But it’s so hard …. (insert whine here).
A friend of mine mentioned a book yesterday entitled Switch: How To Change Things When Change Is Hard
From Forbes Magazine: The authors argue that if we can learn some fundamentals of how our minds function, we can do better overcoming our opposition to change. We can figure out how to keep our desire to improve things from being overwhelmed by our skepticism, caution and fear.
The authors of Switch argue that change works best when each individual who begins a change or who leads changes focuses on three big things at once:
- Motivate the elephant. The elephant is our emotional, instinctive side, which is lazy and skittish and will take any quick payoff over a long-term reward. We all have that. The elephant is usually the first cause of any failure to change, because the change we want usually involves short-term sacrifice in pursuit of long-term benefit. Think of any time you have chosen to oversleep or overeat or think about it tomorrow, and so on. You can’t get anywhere with any change effort unless you engage a person’s emotional side to get their lazy elephant to turn to the path of change.
- Direct the rider. The rider, perched atop the elephant, is our rational side. We presume our rational side holds the reins and chooses the way forward. But the rider’s control is precarious, because he is tiny compared with the elephant. Whenever a six-ton elephant and a 150-pound rider disagree about where to go, the elephant wins. But often what looks like elephant resistance or rider weakness is really just lack of clarity. You must give the rider clear direction with which it can steer the elephant.
- Shape the path. Change often fails because the rider can’t keep the elephant on the road long enough to reach the destination. The elephant’s hunger for instant gratification pulls against the rider’s strength, which is the ability to think big picture and plan beyond the moment. The more you can make straight and clear the path ahead, the more you can diminish confusion between elephant and rider and make progress for both of them easier and more likely, no matter what is going on between them.
So – here are some words to inspire you to make a change today: Every change, on every level, starts with a person at a time deciding to take the lead. So, take the lead in your life…
I am not saying one book will spur you to become a different person but challenging yourself to read and dive into alternative ways to approach obstacles in your life can really help stretch your mind, body and soul and give you inner strength that can come in handy when you are ready to make some major decisions in your life. Muscle memory isn’t just about one’s physical body — the more you use your mind and get comfortable with being uncomfortable, the easier certain things will become –and you are ready for the new challenges that await!
Today’s workout was a doozy for me. I feel worn out from it and about halfway into it, my mind started to taunt me. Seriously, taunt me. My asthma was like hey, remember me<hack, hack> and my body was like ouch, this hurts –how many minutes do we have to do this? But I fought through it one rep at a time!
15 min AMRAP
- 10 box Jumps
- 7 Hang Power Cleans (65#)
- 7 Push Presses
total rounds: 7+4 reps
We did this similar WOD back on August 9 — and I see improvement so it’s a win today in my book!
Are you Just Keeping the Lights On in Life?
I want to share what a dear friend of mine shared with me yesterday about something she was told in the recent weeks about the work she does. It really rang true for me and I think it’s really indicative of where so many of us find ourselves stuck in right now.
It was a high level, executive meeting and the goals of the organization were being discussed. She noticed that the large majority of work she was focused on was not aligned with the goals laid out –and she mentioned it. Someone told her “That’s ok, there has to be someone who keeps the lights on.” It was said as if that was ok — and other co-workers quickly piped in to agree as if to say “yeah, the machine has to keep running.”
Now, if you are asking yourself – what’s wrong with that? Let me ask YOU something– Do you want to be on the team that just threads the needle or the one who sews — and makes that amazing, innovative, beautiful garment? For some, the answer may just be the threader — you like stability, the freedom it affords you, and the lack of stress and pressure that the role may have. But you know what happens after a while of being stagnant? For most people, you begin to lose your drive, your fire, your inspiration and then ultimately, you lose your joy. I have seen it happen to many of my friends, co-workers, and family. They settle for mediocre because they are convinced it affords them other benefits.
I’m not saying that keeping the lights on is not the right role for some. I am asking for each and everyone out there to stop and think about where you are in your life and figure out if it’s where you need and want to be-whether it be in your personal or professional life. Jotting down some Likes/Dislikes using a good old fashioned note pad is a great way to help you figure it all out –
Think about the following questions:
- What are my life/work ‘deal breakers’ and are they being broken?
- Are you where you want to be?
- Are you OK with where you are right now, today?
- Do you have Joy in your life and/or career?
- Are you taking care of YOU?
- What do YOU want out of life, your career?
- Are you being challenged regularly?
- Are you able to learn something where you are?
- Are you being valued, recognized, and/or compensated appropriately?
- How do you feel when you do <fill in the blank>?
- When was the last time you were excited to go to work <or fill in the blank>?
Take CrossFit for me for example — I am excited each and every morning to hit the box at 6A. Crazy I know –but I love it. Love the people I get to see, the workouts I do, the challenges I face, the way I feel during and after, and seeing the progress I have made and continue to make. From time to time, I do get burned out and it starts to feel like a chore and I don’t feel so good (I’m super sore, or run down) –and I know, it’s time for me to stop and think about what’s going on and make a decision on what to do. Usually it’s taking a few extra days off or lowering my weight, but the point is – I don’t just keep doing things blindly — “keeping the lights on.” I adjust and we all need to do that in all facets of our lives regularly.
And as I have talked about before, adjustments are changes and change is hard. But so is being stuck in a Fear Loop and being paralyzed by fear. Go through the steps above to assess and then come up with a plan to take action! Period.
- 800 m jog
- high knees
- side shuffle
- heel to butt
- run backwards
- 10 handstand holds w/3 shoulder touches
- 15 Pull ups
- 10 SDHP (65#)
One of my friends, Tina K. posted this on facebook today.
Today, let’s not worry about the opinion of others. Let’s not abandon ourselves to please other people. Let’s not give our power away because we feel we need the approval of other people. Let’s celebrate filling ourselves so that we may be of even greater service to the world. ~Mastin Kipp
Today’s workout was a doozy. Coach Conan created it to help folks prepare for the Spartan race this weekend.
a slow lap around the building
10 push ups
10 Pass Thrus
5 Hand stands
50m walking lunges
20 Pull ups
15 Toes to Bar
It’s important to not forget how far you have come from time to time. I certainly don’t dwell in my past mistakes or missteps, but I do check in to remind myself how far I have come. It’s a great way to inspire and recommit myself to the journey that I am on. So – I found this picture of myself from October 2007 & decided to post it here.
You know what is so funny to me. No one would have called me heavy and although I didn’t feel thin or in shape — I didn’t feel this mushy! It’s so weird to look at pics of me from before I found my passion. I had both my kids by 2007 — so I was obviously living the life of a Mom with a 5 and 3 year old. Not easy by any means and this was 7 months before my first boot camp experience –
As you can see — anyone can decide to make a change in their life. You have to commit and work at it. It doesn’t get handed to you but it’s definitely up to you to make it happen. And you can do it with baby steps — start working out, make gains physically — then look at your diet or start with your diet and when you are ready — start exercising! The point is — Make a Change!
So I seriously had the best birthday yesterday. I woke up, worked out, headed to a baby shower lunch with some friends, came home, napped, and then headed out for a party thrown by some good friends. There is nothing like just living in the moment and enjoying your life. I felt loved. So much has happened to me in my 30′s — some great things. I had my kids; some seriously suck ass things too — my husband got diagnosed with colon cancer and we began our cancer fight. I am sure everyone reading this has both sides of the spectrum no matter what decade they are in. It’s called life, get used to it.
One big change this year is me moving out of my old boot camp and going full on Crossfit! It was not something that intentionally decided. It was more a series of events that led up to me ultimately leaving. I have said before — When it is time to make change, sometimes it comes whether you are ready or not. So, here I am loving the switch so far and have already had some major wins -like getting a start on learning Double Unders. I couldn’t even do one successfully and now I can do that and sometimes more. I have met some great new people at Crossfit and I know that this will only lead to wonderful things in my life.
Yesterdays workout at Crossfit Impavidus was fun. I can’t tell you the last time I worked out with my old trainer that I used the word Fun. There was no fun there. Everything was so serious — and now that I have been away for a week or so, I feel FREE. I like laughing along with the coaches when I try to do a Handstand Kick and fall to the side looking like a pretzel. I ‘m ok with that — the only time I laughed at bootcamp was before we worked out, and all the ladies were talking and waiting to begin. Once we began, it was all regimented. Now don’t get me wrong — that certainly has a place and some people need that and maybe even I needed that for a while. But now that my passion for fitness and health was found — I want to work hard and have fun. So if I fall on my face during a Handstand Kick and can get up and laugh — then that’s ok.
It’s so odd to even talk like that when talking about my fitness journey. It’s an outlet for me and it was becoming a source of frustration and stress. It took something unexpected to happen for me to be able to realize that I had lost the fun and I needed it back. The reality was I wasnt at my bootcamp for the trainer anymore. I was there for the support and relationships of the women that I worked out with. And I was scared to leave for fear of not having them in my life. I was settling for training that wasn’t meeting my needs so that I could have the support of friends. What I finally realized was that those ladies are my friends now, no matter if I work out during the mornings with them or not and that I needed a new trainer who will help me move forward with my fitness goals. I haven’t had any breakthroughs in quite some time and it hasn’t been for a lack of trying
My friend Kelly sent me my horoscope yesterday after reading it because she said it directly spoke to me. It really did. I’m not one of those read your horoscope daily kind of people, but sometimes those things hit the nail right on the head:
Moving from where you are to where you want to be in life may suddenly seem easier than ever today. New energies are coming into your life and they are wiping the slate clean. Today, making a fresh start seems more possible and more fun. But keep in mind that no matter how major or how minor you want to alter your life, change always takes effort. You must be ready to make sacrifices and accommodate unpleasant facts — or people — and flex muscles you are not accustomed to using.
It even used the word muscles! Tell me that wasn’t written for me?
Change happens when you need it; not necessarily when you THINK you need it.
I made a big decision today. I am switching boot camps. I have been considering moving over to Crossfit for some time and had been waiting for them to arrive in Loudoun County. As those of you know who read my blog, it arrived and today I made the decision to leave the camp where my journey began and go to Crossfit Impavidus full time.
I have wanted to try a different training approach for some time but have continued on with my bootcamp mainly because of the ladies I worked out with. I have developed really strong friendships and love getting up that early to hang out with them. But I find that sometimes things happen in the universe that are meant to give you a nudge to make a change and move on because you need to — not because you are ready or necessarily want to. That happened today and after careful consideration — I am going to listen to that nudge and switch over. So starting tomorrow –I will be 100% Crossfit trained!
I am excited to see how different my body and mind respond to this shift — stay tuned!