Posts tagged change
It is so cold out there this morning but even that wasn’t the reason I took a rest day. I noticed yesterday that I was just not into the workout. My body was fatigued but it was more my head. My head wasn’t in the game. Whenever that happens, I know my body is tired and needs to rest.
When the alarm went off this morning, I considered going but then remembered yesterday and said — back to sleep you go. It’s not often that I do that but I have learned to listen to my internal cues. They are always right!!
Here are some recent articles I am reading around the web. I’m always trying to improve myself and learn more! Stay Hungry My friends!!
To go along with my post about Change:
The problem, of course, is that no matter how emotionally satisfying these tirades may be, they don’t really work. You can tell people that they are fat and that they shouldn’t eat more French fries, but that doesn’t mean they will stop. You can make all sorts of New Year’s resolutions, earnestly deciding to behave better, but that doesn’t mean you will.
People don’t behave badly because they lack information about their shortcomings. They behave badly because they’ve fallen into patterns of destructive behavior from which they’re unable to escape.
Human behavior flows from hidden springs and calls for constant and crafty prodding more than blunt hectoring. The way to get someone out of a negative cascade is not with a ferocious e-mail trying to attack their bad behavior. It’s to go on offense and try to maximize some alternative good behavior. There’s a trove of research suggesting that it’s best to tackle negative behaviors obliquely, by redirecting attention toward different, positive ones.
It’s foolish to imperiously withdraw and say, come back to me when you have a plan. It’s better to pick one area of life at a time (most people don’t have the willpower to change their whole lives all at once) and help a person lay down a pre-emptive set of concrete rules and rewards. Pick out a small goal and lay out measurable steps toward it.
It’s foolhardy to try to persuade people to see the profound errors of their ways in the hope that mental change will lead to behavioral change. Instead, try to change superficial behavior first and hope that, if they act differently, they’ll eventually think differently. Lure people toward success with the promise of admiration instead of trying to punish failure with criticism. Positive rewards are more powerful.
There I said it. So many of us lead hard lives as it is that when presented with choices to make a change, we don’t. Why do something else hard by choice? And sometimes you are so clouded that you don’t even realize you need to change. Logic says that if you don’t know what you don’t know then how do you know you need to change it. It’s a good question and one I am not sure I know the answer to –but if you have had enough of the way your life is or the direction it’s going or feel like shit– or you feel out of whack, I am going to take a guess and say you probably need to change something. But it’s so hard …. (insert whine here).
A friend of mine mentioned a book yesterday entitled Switch: How To Change Things When Change Is Hard
From Forbes Magazine: The authors argue that if we can learn some fundamentals of how our minds function, we can do better overcoming our opposition to change. We can figure out how to keep our desire to improve things from being overwhelmed by our skepticism, caution and fear.
The authors of Switch argue that change works best when each individual who begins a change or who leads changes focuses on three big things at once:
- Motivate the elephant. The elephant is our emotional, instinctive side, which is lazy and skittish and will take any quick payoff over a long-term reward. We all have that. The elephant is usually the first cause of any failure to change, because the change we want usually involves short-term sacrifice in pursuit of long-term benefit. Think of any time you have chosen to oversleep or overeat or think about it tomorrow, and so on. You can’t get anywhere with any change effort unless you engage a person’s emotional side to get their lazy elephant to turn to the path of change.
- Direct the rider. The rider, perched atop the elephant, is our rational side. We presume our rational side holds the reins and chooses the way forward. But the rider’s control is precarious, because he is tiny compared with the elephant. Whenever a six-ton elephant and a 150-pound rider disagree about where to go, the elephant wins. But often what looks like elephant resistance or rider weakness is really just lack of clarity. You must give the rider clear direction with which it can steer the elephant.
- Shape the path. Change often fails because the rider can’t keep the elephant on the road long enough to reach the destination. The elephant’s hunger for instant gratification pulls against the rider’s strength, which is the ability to think big picture and plan beyond the moment. The more you can make straight and clear the path ahead, the more you can diminish confusion between elephant and rider and make progress for both of them easier and more likely, no matter what is going on between them.
So – here are some words to inspire you to make a change today: Every change, on every level, starts with a person at a time deciding to take the lead. So, take the lead in your life…
I am not saying one book will spur you to become a different person but challenging yourself to read and dive into alternative ways to approach obstacles in your life can really help stretch your mind, body and soul and give you inner strength that can come in handy when you are ready to make some major decisions in your life. Muscle memory isn’t just about one’s physical body — the more you use your mind and get comfortable with being uncomfortable, the easier certain things will become –and you are ready for the new challenges that await!
Today’s workout was a doozy for me. I feel worn out from it and about halfway into it, my mind started to taunt me. Seriously, taunt me. My asthma was like hey, remember me<hack, hack> and my body was like ouch, this hurts –how many minutes do we have to do this? But I fought through it one rep at a time!
15 min AMRAP
- 10 box Jumps
- 7 Hang Power Cleans (65#)
- 7 Push Presses
total rounds: 7+4 reps
We did this similar WOD back on August 9 — and I see improvement so it’s a win today in my book!
Are you Just Keeping the Lights On in Life?
I want to share what a dear friend of mine shared with me yesterday about something she was told in the recent weeks about the work she does. It really rang true for me and I think it’s really indicative of where so many of us find ourselves stuck in right now.
It was a high level, executive meeting and the goals of the organization were being discussed. She noticed that the large majority of work she was focused on was not aligned with the goals laid out –and she mentioned it. Someone told her “That’s ok, there has to be someone who keeps the lights on.” It was said as if that was ok — and other co-workers quickly piped in to agree as if to say “yeah, the machine has to keep running.”
Now, if you are asking yourself – what’s wrong with that? Let me ask YOU something– Do you want to be on the team that just threads the needle or the one who sews — and makes that amazing, innovative, beautiful garment? For some, the answer may just be the threader — you like stability, the freedom it affords you, and the lack of stress and pressure that the role may have. But you know what happens after a while of being stagnant? For most people, you begin to lose your drive, your fire, your inspiration and then ultimately, you lose your joy. I have seen it happen to many of my friends, co-workers, and family. They settle for mediocre because they are convinced it affords them other benefits.
I’m not saying that keeping the lights on is not the right role for some. I am asking for each and everyone out there to stop and think about where you are in your life and figure out if it’s where you need and want to be-whether it be in your personal or professional life. Jotting down some Likes/Dislikes using a good old fashioned note pad is a great way to help you figure it all out –
Think about the following questions:
- What are my life/work ‘deal breakers’ and are they being broken?
- Are you where you want to be?
- Are you OK with where you are right now, today?
- Do you have Joy in your life and/or career?
- Are you taking care of YOU?
- What do YOU want out of life, your career?
- Are you being challenged regularly?
- Are you able to learn something where you are?
- Are you being valued, recognized, and/or compensated appropriately?
- How do you feel when you do <fill in the blank>?
- When was the last time you were excited to go to work <or fill in the blank>?
Take CrossFit for me for example — I am excited each and every morning to hit the box at 6A. Crazy I know –but I love it. Love the people I get to see, the workouts I do, the challenges I face, the way I feel during and after, and seeing the progress I have made and continue to make. From time to time, I do get burned out and it starts to feel like a chore and I don’t feel so good (I’m super sore, or run down) –and I know, it’s time for me to stop and think about what’s going on and make a decision on what to do. Usually it’s taking a few extra days off or lowering my weight, but the point is – I don’t just keep doing things blindly — “keeping the lights on.” I adjust and we all need to do that in all facets of our lives regularly.
And as I have talked about before, adjustments are changes and change is hard. But so is being stuck in a Fear Loop and being paralyzed by fear. Go through the steps above to assess and then come up with a plan to take action! Period.
- 800 m jog
- high knees
- side shuffle
- heel to butt
- run backwards
- 10 handstand holds w/3 shoulder touches
- 15 Pull ups
- 10 SDHP (65#)
One of my friends, Tina K. posted this on facebook today.
Today, let’s not worry about the opinion of others. Let’s not abandon ourselves to please other people. Let’s not give our power away because we feel we need the approval of other people. Let’s celebrate filling ourselves so that we may be of even greater service to the world. ~Mastin Kipp
Today’s workout was a doozy. Coach Conan created it to help folks prepare for the Spartan race this weekend.
a slow lap around the building
10 push ups
10 Pass Thrus
5 Hand stands
50m walking lunges
20 Pull ups
15 Toes to Bar
It’s important to not forget how far you have come from time to time. I certainly don’t dwell in my past mistakes or missteps, but I do check in to remind myself how far I have come. It’s a great way to inspire and recommit myself to the journey that I am on. So – I found this picture of myself from October 2007 & decided to post it here.
You know what is so funny to me. No one would have called me heavy and although I didn’t feel thin or in shape — I didn’t feel this mushy! It’s so weird to look at pics of me from before I found my passion. I had both my kids by 2007 — so I was obviously living the life of a Mom with a 5 and 3 year old. Not easy by any means and this was 7 months before my first boot camp experience –
As you can see — anyone can decide to make a change in their life. You have to commit and work at it. It doesn’t get handed to you but it’s definitely up to you to make it happen. And you can do it with baby steps — start working out, make gains physically — then look at your diet or start with your diet and when you are ready — start exercising! The point is — Make a Change!